in surgery right now

I'm doing Tumor/Endocrine surgery right now and while I enjoy it for being a fairly relaxed rotation, I find myself more frustrated with the people than anything else. Is it just me or are female surgeons (generally speaking) meaner than male surgeons? I find myself getting caught between thinking that a female surgeon will be more compassionate and realizing that this is very untrue. I think the problem is that in the past, surgery has been said to be a man's world and so women, in an effort to adapt to being in a man's world, emasculate themselves and strip themselves of their femininity or softness so as to fit in better. This is truly tragic and pisses me off. We should not change the good aspects of our selves, the peaceful, gentler aspects of ourselves simply to fit in better in an unruly ruthless world. We should be maintain confidence in our abilities to be calm soft strong human beings in the presence of mean unkind men or women.

To all you female surgeons out there who are mean because you think you will fit in better in a surgeon's world, I pity you. I pity you because your life is a tragedy. Tragic in the sense that you had to change who you were to fit in better in a world that could not accept you for who you were, which was probably not something terrible to begin with.

My friends, never change who you are for your career. It is the one regret that you will not be able to live with forever.